Review by John Hill, Editor and CEO

What does it truly mean to be a man? In The Five Marks of a Man, Brian Tome takes readers on a journey to uncover the qualities that define mature, godly manhood. With his characteristic blend of honesty, practical wisdom, and biblical insight, Tome challenges the modern-day notion that adulthood begins at 18. Instead, he emphasizes, "A boy doesn't automatically become a man at the age of eighteen. What differentiates a man from a boy is the way he lives."
Tome organizes his book around five distinct marks that set men apart from boys: (1) Men have a vision, (2) Men take a minority position, (3) Men are team players, (4) Men work, and (5) Men are protectors. These traits provide a roadmap for readers seeking to grow in character and faith. Here’s a closer look at each chapter:
1. Men Have a Vision The first chapter underscores the importance of living with purpose. Men, Tome argues, are driven by a clear vision for their lives. Unlike boys, who live aimlessly or focus only on immediate gratification, men think ahead. They set goals and make decisions that align with their long-term mission. Tome’s anecdotes and scriptural references inspire readers to discern God’s vision for their lives and pursue it with unwavering determination.
2. Men Take a Minority Position Tome’s second mark invites readers to embrace the road less traveled. Being a man often means standing firm in faith and convictions, even when it’s unpopular. In a culture that celebrates conformity, Tome’s call to take a minority position is both countercultural and refreshing. He reminds readers that men of faith—like Daniel, Paul, and Jesus Himself—often stood apart from the crowd to fulfill God’s purposes.
3. Men Are Team Players The third chapter shifts the focus from individuality to community. Men are not lone wolves; they thrive as part of a team. Tome explains that teamwork isn’t just about collaborating at work or in sports but about building meaningful relationships that sharpen character. Through examples from his life and ministry, Tome illustrates how being a team player involves humility, mutual support, and a commitment to others’ growth.
4. Men Work Hard work is a hallmark of true manhood. In this chapter, Tome challenges the cultural tendency toward laziness and entitlement. Men, he asserts, embrace their God-given role as providers and contributors. Tome’s practical advice encourages readers to approach work—whether in their careers, families, or communities—with diligence and integrity, knowing that their efforts honor God.
5. Men Are Protectors The final chapter calls men to act as protectors of their families, communities, and faith. Tome describes protection not only as physical but also emotional and spiritual. Men protect those around them by standing up for justice, nurturing their loved ones, and guarding their own hearts against temptation. This mark challenges readers to embody Christ’s sacrificial love and courage.
The Five Marks of a Man is a powerful, practical guide for men at any stage of life. Tome’s conversational tone, relatable stories, and biblically grounded insights make this book accessible and inspiring. Whether you’re a young man seeking direction, a father raising boys, or a pastor mentoring others, this book offers wisdom that can transform your perspective on manhood.
I highly recommend adding The Five Marks of a Man to your reading list—or gifting it to the men in your life. You can purchase your copy and take the first step toward living as the man God has called you to be.

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